“I’ve already left this place in my mind”

Petty vindictiveness and institutionalised hatred, coming atcha from my hometown. You’ll forgive me if I take a moment to go into a corner and beam with pride, right? Is it any wonder I ran from that shithole the first chance I got? Coming hot on the heels of Lastyearsgirl’s excellent post on the misjudged and frankly hateful comments recently emerging from the bile-filled mouths of Scotland’s Catholic representatives, it seems everyone in Motherwell is determined to make me so ashamed I’ll never return for so much as a flying visit. And people wonder why I had to flee in order to have any kind of life? London is not the perfect solution to any problem, but most places here I can walk down the street holding my girlfriend’s hand, or be open about my sexuality from the first time I meet a new person.  Back there I’d expect anything from insults to people still getting a kicking in the street, and I know I’m not far off the mark.

What makes me laugh is that Breeder McQuaid (male component) says it’s not intended as a slur against the gays.  No, instead it’s a mature and reasonable reaction along the lines of the “I’m no wae them, we’re diff’rent, I don’t wantae catch thur germs”.  Fucknuts.  The problem for religious wackjobs like these is that they’re so desperately insecure in their evermore fallible faith that they feel the need to lash out.  What they don’t understand (and nor does the tribunal apparently) is that legally there’s no actual difference between marriage and civil partnership (I’m forever hazy on the details, but it’s nothing significant if they do still differ).  The difference is religious, it’s just unfortunate that the religious ceremony is seen as the ‘true’ one, encoded in the law.  Would they protest if the form lumped registry office and chapel weddings in the same bracket?  No, because they already were.  So this is just the “they’ve got cooties” defence.  Hysterically, yer wummin McQuaid reckons that people would be confused about whether they were straight or gay just from these forms, but it becomes fairly obvious in any situation where it matters that if one has a dick and the other doesn’t, most likely it’s one of those splendid heterosexual unions (the ones with a nigh on 50% divorce rate, eh?).

Surprisingly, the news of this first came from my parents and for once they were outraged on my side.  It angers me most of all because by creating the distinction these backward folks are leaving gay people open to the sort of discrimination that the legal system is trying to eradicate.  It forces people to ‘out’ themselves on official forms, and while that may be nothing much in say, Brighton – Sodom of the South, it’s clearly still a big fuckin’ deal in We-Hate-Gays, Lanarkshire.  If these numpties are claiming their own form of discrimination – religious – then surely the two should be weighed against each other according to the harm principle.  Forcibly outing people, or causing them not to claim their correct legal status is far more detrimental than ‘hurt feelings’.  And if they have such a big bloody problem with it, why not ask God to sort it out?  If the Invisible Man has such a problem with us queers, then surely there would have been lightning bolts hitting ceremonies all over the place since December 2005?

I’m mostly pissed off since I’m one of the least militant lezzbians you could come across.  I don’t see an issue with civil partnerships being named differently to marriages, so long as the legal standing is equal.  It’s a final battle I’m willing to let slide where many aren’t.  Then eejits like this crawl out of the woodwork and you wonder if there’s any way to have the Catholic Church branded a terrorist organisation, and let Dubya sort them out.
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3 responses to ““I’ve already left this place in my mind”

  1. We find it offensive that people don’t know if we are married or civil partners.

    Well, short of the “flash ’em yer pee-pee and they’ll soon figure it out”, the clue is in the name. Just as you cannot get married if you are a homosexual couple you cannot, under the law which created civil partnerships, form one if you are a heterosexual couple. So you’re only ever going to be one or the other. Civil partnerships were enacted to address the severe inequities under the laws as they stood in 2005 – and here I will quote from an expert on Family Law in Scotland who was good enough to write something for me before the law came into force:

    …[T]he continuing preference shown by the law to opposite-sex couples was proving increasingly out of touch with reality, espextation and even morality. The government were no longer willing even to attempt to answer such questions as “why should gay couples be taxed more than non-gay couples?” Or, “why should a survivor receive no conpensation when their partner is killed just because they are of the same sex as the deceased?” Or, “why should gay people and the children they bring up not have access to the same porotections from domestic violence as non-gay people?”

    Entering into a civil partnership gives a couple EXACTLY the same rights as if they were married in terms of succession, taxtation etc. There are a couple of wee differences in terms of terminology, and presumption of fatherhood, nothing that is valid in terms of employment records. You’re ticking that box, I assume, so that your colleagues know who to go to in the event of emergency. A husband/wife/civil partner is the same thing in such a situation. Why add another level of beaurocracy to the form?

    Oh, wait. Because the government and courts in both Scotland and the UK, despite their incompetencies in many other departments, have done much good work in this area and would throw the book (or at least the new Discrimination Act) at you if you attempted to waste their time with a matter such as this. Civil Partnerships, just as it is illegal to happy-slap somebody because they are A Gay OMG!, are not going anywhere, and pointless little pockets of fuss like this are the only way the bigots can still get column inches. Well, that and the comment form on Scotsman.com. I hope the eventual tribunal decision laughs these people down as they deserve to be.

  2. D’oh! Should have closed the “blockquote” tag after that first paragraph. Can you fix babes?

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